As the holidays are approaching, I have been thinking alot about traditions. This is a word that brings up many strong emotions for me... my family used to have many traditions and I found great comfort and enjoyment in them and their predictability. Unfortunately my family has virtually no traditions anymore. Through the years I have conceptualized hypothetical traditions that I hope to do with my own family once I have my own family. I want my children to have stable and predictable yearly events that they can expect and look forward to with anticipation. A few of the ideas I have:
Seasonal decorations -- decorating the house for upcoming seasons or holidays. This would include (but not limited to: Christmas Tree and other Christmas decor, Valentines Day, Easter, Summer, 4th of July, Halloween and Thanksgiving and fall in general. I do not picture lots of cheap gaudy items. One nice thing can be enough. Such as a heart shaped bowl of red and pink candy or flowers for Valentines Day on the coffee table or kitchen counter. A beautiful American flag flying in front of the house for the 4th. Fall would include pumpkins and cinnamon-y potpourri. Wreaths are a given year-round.
Birthday Celebrations -- I want to celebrate every birthday in the house with whatever the birthday boy or girl wants to do. This would not have to include a big party every year, but could instead be a fun family outing chosen by the birthday person or a meal specially prepared and chosen by the birthday boy/girl. I think birthdays are a big deal and should be treated like a big deal.
Family Vacations -- Ideally these would happen each summer and could be as simple as camping for a weekend or as extravagent as traveling to another state or country. Being active during these vacations would be ideal, as well as exploring the area we are visiting. Traveling to visit faraway family and friends will also hopefully be a regular family event.
Supporting my family through their extra-curricular activities -- this means attending plays, musicals, sporting events, games, tournaments, recitals or shows. Any enriching experiences my family find themselves inspired to do in their free time, I plan on supporting it as best I can.
Smells -- This topic may sound a bit odd.. but I want to ensure my house always smells good. I want to have good smelling candles throughout the house with scents that compliment the season. The smell of dinner will often be the flavor of the day. I am really in tune with the impact that memory for scents can have. I plan to use the same brand of laundry detergent and dryer sheets for as long as possible.
Meals and Food -- I plan to have some kind of a meal prepared each evening for my family. I want to be able to provide healthy and satisfying food for them. Growing bodies need to be nourished with substantial food. I also plan to make lunches for each family member, my husband included for them to take to school and work. My hope is that I will inspire my children to eventually participate in the family food preparation.
Extended Family and Friends -- I want to have a comfortable guest room (hopefully with an attached bathroom) always ready and available for any family or friends who are visiting from out of town. Or if someone imbibes a bit too much at one of our parties. Which leads me to:
Parties -- I want to regularly have family and friends come to visit and/or stay. And I want to provide a household where they WANT to do that.
As you can see, many of these things are centered around seasons or holidays and all are meant to bring my family and our close friends together with the goal of creating enduring bonds. One of my greatest hopes is that my family and our house overflows with love and I believe traditions are one way to cultivate that.
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