The Big "O"

Interesting study (link here) I read today...  Shocklingly (sarcasm), there appears to be some discrepancies between the number of orgasms men report to be giving to their sexual partners and the numbers of orgasms women are claiming to actually experience.  I love that someone took the time to study this because it is something I have thought about.  How can we account for this (rather huge) difference?

Women fake it. Some of them often.  Some of them all the time. As in, every time.  And men have no freaking clue.  When asked, it seems most men will proudly report, "No woman has ever faked it with me."  I hate to break the news to you but look at the stats, Buddy.  The chances are high that at least one of those Os was a fibber.  Now whose fault is this?

As much as it pains me to admit this, us women really cannot blame the men here.  We are not doing ourselves any favors here with the faking it.  It is only reinforcing the (insert ineffective-and-sometimes-painful-sexual-technique here).  Rest assured he will be doing the same thing at the same speed in the same position next time.  Ladies -- it's time to step up to the plate and get some honest communication on the table when it comes to what you want need in the bedroom if your goal is to achieve the O.

Technology is probably also to blame.  The porn industry has put some ridiculously high expectations in both the female and male minds when it comes to sex and it is a sexual experience that is readily available 24 hours a day.  Unlike living breathing sexual partners.  I could go off on this topic but I will save that for another post.  Let's just leave it with this - everyone achieves an O in porn escapades.  Often this occurs multiple times within one encounter.  And how convenient that it happens to happen within a limited time-frame.  Porn is not reality.  (Thank God.)

The porn talk leads me to this: I get that men put a LOT of pressure on themselves to perform.  But they often put even more pressure on the women.  "Did you have an O?"*  If the answer is not a positive one, you have simply ruined his world.  Talk about pressure. 

Many women do not take responsibility for their own Os and instead leave it all to men expecting that it's his job to please her.  Let's back this up a step and ask the most important question of all - does she know how to please herself?  Because if this answer is no, my guess is that it's gonna be next to impossible for him to figure you out.

If you fall into the category of a female faker or the category of a man who still truly believes no woman has faked it with him..... please take a look at this study.  Bon Appetit!


*If you really have to ask, the answer is most likely no.